You don’t heal to get back to who you were. You heal to make room for who you’re becoming.

There’s a particular kind of threshold we all recognize if we’ve lived through enough change:
the days when something is ending… but the next chapter hasn’t fully arrived yet.

That in-between space can feel tender. Unsettling. Honest.

And if this past season has felt like a lot - if things kept resurfacing that you thought you’d already handled, if you felt yourself being asked to look at what you’d rather not look at - there’s a reason it can feel so intense.

You’re not “backsliding.”
You’re not broken.
Instead, this is often what completion looks like.

When something is ready to leave the body, the nervous system, the energy field… it rises.

The Snake Energy: Shedding Without Negotiation

In Chinese astrology, the Snake is often associated with depth, discernment, and transformation, an inward-moving energy that doesn’t force change, but requires truth.

The Snake doesn’t run.
It doesn’t charge.
It moves slowly, deliberately, close to the earth.

And when it’s time to shed?

It doesn’t negotiate with its old skin. It simply grows until the old container can’t hold what it’s becoming, and then it releases it.

That’s the part most people miss about transformation: the release isn’t a decision you make in your head. It’s a readiness that happens in your system.

And readiness takes space.

Trauma Isn’t Just a Story. It’s a Pattern Stored in the Body.

We’ve been taught to think about trauma as something that happened to us - an event, a memory, a chapter we’d rather not revisit.

But trauma isn’t only the story. 

Trauma is also what your nervous system learned in order to survive.

When something overwhelming happens, and your system can’t fully process it in the moment, it doesn’t get filed away neatly. It gets stored energetically as unfinished business:

• a pattern of bracing
• a tendency to scan for threat
• a body that can’t fully exhale
• a nervous system that never got the signal to stand down or slow down

Your nervous system did exactly what it was designed to do. It protected you. It kept you functioning. It got you through.

The cost is that part of you may still be living as if it’s happening now.

This is why you can understand your trauma intellectually and still feel it running your body.
Why you can “know it’s over” and still react as if it isn’t.
Why insight helps… but your system keeps telling a different truth.

The story lives in the mind.
The pattern lives in the body.

Healing the pattern requires working where it actually lives.

What Energy Healing Can Reach When Words Hit a Ceiling

Talk therapy is powerful. Context matters. Language can be deeply healing.

And - language has a ceiling.

Your nervous system operates below language. Many of your protective responses formed before you had words for what was happening, or before you had the capacity to make meaning of it.

That’s where body-based and energy-based work can be supportive.

Reiki, somatic practices, nervous system regulation, energetic clearing - these aren’t “woo” replacements for real healing. They’re ways of working with the felt sense of what’s stored:

• the charge
• the contraction
• the stuck activation
• the protective pattern that never got completed

You’re not re-living it. You’re releasing the charge that keeps your system organized around it.

This is the difference between understanding and completion.

Completion is your nervous system finally receiving a message it’s been waiting for:
It’s over now.
You’re here.
You’re safe enough to relax and soften.

What It Can Feel Like When Something Moves

When stored stress begins to release, people describe it in different ways:

• warmth or heat
• tingling
• spontaneous emotion that rises and passes without a clear “story”
• deeper breathing, sometimes for the first time in years
• a sense of lightness, like something physical was lifted

That doesn’t mean you imagined it.

It means something real shifted inside your system.

This is why people sometimes cry in Reiki sessions without knowing why.
Why a specific area of the body releases tension that’s been there so long it felt normal.
Why clarity arrives not through thinking, but through settling.

Your body knows how to heal. Energy work and nervous system regulation create the conditions for that wisdom to come back online.

The Part That Changes Everything: The Space That Gets Created

Most healing conversations focus on what’s being removed:

the trauma
the pattern
the stuck energy
the grief

But here’s the question I want you to sit with: What gets to come in once the space is clear?

When your nervous system isn’t using most of its resources to manage stored threat, that energy becomes available for something else.

When the body stops bracing, it can start receiving.

When survival mode isn’t running in the background constantly, you can access what survival blocks:

• creativity
• clarity
• genuine rest
• presence
• the ability to feel joy without immediately waiting for it to end

This is why “purpose” can feel so far away when you’re dysregulated.

Purpose can’t compete with survival mode.
It can’t squeeze in alongside chronic activation and stored fear.

Move what’s stored.
Create the space.
Let what’s meant for you actually arise.

What This Looks Like in Real Life

The woman who’s been exhausted for years, pushing through, holding everything together, finally releases the grief she’s been carrying since a loss she “already dealt with.” Her energy returns. She starts the project she’s been thinking about for a decade.

It wasn’t that she lacked motivation.
She was using her life force to hold something that needed to be released.

The person who keeps attracting the same relationship dynamic, no matter how much they understand their patterns intellectually, then does consistent somatic and energetic work around the original wound. The dynamic shifts.

The pattern changed because the system changed, not just the story.

The one who has been disconnected from their body for as long as they can remember, numb, performing, going through the motions, starts to feel again. Simple things. Pleasure. Presence.

Presence becomes possible when the system isn’t fully occupied with holding the past.

When energy moves, life moves.

The Nervous System Is the Gateway

This is why nervous system regulation isn’t separate from soul work.

It’s the foundation of it.

Your nervous system is the gatekeeper between stored trauma and available life force.
Between what’s been stuck and what wants to flow.
Between survival frequency and a more spacious way of living.

When your nervous system feels safe enough to release, healing becomes possible.
When healing becomes possible, space opens.
When space opens, you remember what you actually came here to do.

Not what you’ve been surviving.
Not what you’ve been performing.
What you were built for.

The Practice: Moving to Create Space

You don’t need to know exactly what you’re carrying to start creating space for it to move.

1) Breathe into the held places.
Most people breathe around their pain, into the chest, and no further. Try breathing into your belly. Into your lower back. Into your toes. Into the places that have been braced. Breath is one of the first “safety signals” your nervous system understands.

2) Name what you’ve been carrying, without analyzing it.
Just say it (out loud or in writing).
“I’ve been carrying the weight of this loss.”
“I’ve been holding this anger for years.”
“I’ve been bracing since that happened.”
Naming can help your system complete a loop it’s been running.

3) Create a ritual of completion.
Place your hand on your heart and say:
“I release what I’m ready to release. I step into what’s next with space for it to arrive.”

Start small. Your nervous system doesn’t need dramatic releases. It needs consistent signals that it’s safe to soften.

What Wants to Come In

Take a moment right now.

Ask yourself: If I released what I’ve been holding… what might show up in the space?

Don’t force an answer. Let something rise.

Maybe it’s rest.
Maybe it’s a creative project.
Maybe it’s a relationship that actually nourishes you.
Maybe it’s clarity.
Maybe it’s simply the ability to feel your own life from the inside instead of managing it from the outside.

That thing - whatever just arose - that’s what’s waiting on the other side of the healing.

The healing isn’t the destination. It’s the doorway.

A Free Resource to Support Your Nervous System

If you’re ready to work with your nervous system as the foundation of this release, I created a free guide to support you, practical, body-based, and designed for real life (not perfect conditions).

The Nervous System Regulation Guide covers:

• Common signs your nervous system is dysregulated 
• Nervous system basics: what the autonomic nervous system (ANS) is and how fight-or-flight (sympathetic) and rest-and-digest (parasympathetic) work together
• What “nervous system regulation” actually means (and why a healthy nervous system is flexible, not “calm” 24/7)
• The vagus nerve explained: what it is, why it matters, and how vagal tone supports a sense of safety in the body
• Practical tools you can start using immediately

Download it free here.